You'll always be a part of us...

Coach Jay,
There are so many things I wish we could have said. So many ways we could have shown how much you meant to us. Although we did not know you on a personal level, you have impacted our family. The first time you approached us about letting Bradley try the team, we laughed and tried to convince you that we had a busy schedule and gymnastics wasn't a priority. You were persistent and convincing. At times, even offering to "foot the bill". When we finally decided to try it temporarily, you told me that we would not only see his gymnastic skills improve drastically, but his math and english skills as well! (You forgot to mention the joke-telling and practical joke skills he would master - and he did!)
Bradley was hooked from day one. He thought you were a hero and still wants to be a gymnast like you. I was pleased when he came home talking about the proper etiquette during a meet and how to be a good sport. After only 3 short months with you he has learned more than we ever thought possible. Unfortunately, he has learned a really difficult lesson as well. The most difficult he has ever had to face. Bradley prayed for you often before you died. I will always remember the Valentine he made for you in Sunday School that said "God loves you and so do I".
I wish you were here to answer some of his questions. I am so sorry that we didn't take the time to get to know you on a more personal level. It may not have helped your sadness, but it may have helped us to understand better.
Anna is so accurate about the stages of grief we have experienced. Initially, we were shocked beyond belief. There was a time I wanted to grab a hold of you and ring your neck! After learning more about you personally and what you have been through, I am rid of the anger and so sad and sorry for all you have been through.
You have changed our lives. I'm certain, had it not been for your persistence, we would still be happily going to our little, one hour-a-week gymnastics class to get a bit of exercise. You have put a passion in our son that will not soon die and I thank you for that. (And maybe, someday, someone will get him to keep his tongue in his mouth!)